Abuse or discipline?

Okay here's the thing....my dad says this is discipline...he smacks me across the face, back, neck, the back of my head, ect.. plus he'll kick me out of the house for no reason...now i know that spanking is considered discipline but what if i get spanked for no reason...just cuz...and he laughs afterwards...is that sexual harassment??? i'm trying to pull a case together...i even have websites like www.stophitting.com with a bunch more....i need to know if this is abuse or not...please help!

This pic is of my leg...right at my knee... the yellowish purple color is a bruise..there is also a cut...this is from being thrown into an open door from my dad getting ....ed off at me



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Oh cops have been called 2 times they say I am the problem and he is disciplining me, and he has every right to hit me. They were called once cause my friend and me were on the phone. He said get off and slap me so hard the phone went flying and my friend called the cops.

no that's not sexual harassment but it is abuse and if u got a camcorder then you have to set it up and use it to and catch him in the act and give the tape to the cops but if u don't want him to go to jail then you should try to talk to him if that would work and if you don't want to do either one that's when you pack your bags and go to someone very close to you like a relative or a close friend and call the police and get a hold of children services

datsz not discipline itsz abuse

Its abuse!! Call the cops.

I doubt there's a jurisdiction in the US where that does not describe abuse.

Definetly abuse.

Im so sorry for you! truly.. I pray for you.. You do need help and you do need to get away from that horrid man.. It is abuse and you need serious help before something worse happens.. Please go to the police.. talk to school counselors, your paster, anyone that can help you.. Goodluck! and God bless you!

That is definetly abuse. Do you have anyone you can talk to about this?

Yes hun, this is definately abuse. It is good that you have documented this. Where is your mom and siblings in all this? Write down dates too, and what exactly he did. Get out as soon as you can.

IT seems awfully fishey that the cops would say that this qualified as discipline. Call child protective services for yourself. Tell them exactly what has gone on with the dad, brother and mom. Show them the photos, leave with the social worker. Spanking is one thing... slapping and kicking is outright abuse. (you are too old for a "spanking" anyway)

i think this is a abuse not discipline

if discipline your dad should not spank at you
when discipline your parents should scolded at you only

Your faather is abusive, he is hurting you not only physically but mentally, choice is yours accept it or report it. Your hurt will stay with you all your life.and effect you the wrong way you need help either now or later.You don't say how old you are, my advice seek help now don't put up with his abuse anymore, don't worry about him,he doesn't care about you.

Leave and go live with a relative or walk your butt to Social Services and beg for them to do something - and before the bruses go away. Just go in there and tell them the truth and that it's too dangerous for you to live there anymore.

It sounds like abuse. What you need to do is keep a journal to write down everything he has done. Also keep taking picture of all injuries. Next time he hits you call the police( that way you have it on record) and if you need to get out Don't go to your friends house...Go to a local abuse shelter. They have abuse counselors that will help you and once your inside the shelter you'll be safe. He would not be able to go in after you.

IF what you say is true, then it's abuse. Four pictures of the same injury does not substantiate the claim, though. They are not proof positive that what you say is true. Inadverdent injury is not always dispositive, but can be used to establish patterns of behavior.

Corporal punishment (hitting) is not reserved to the butt in most jurisdictions. Parents are legally allowed to slap faces, backs, necks, etc. In Georgia, anything short of hospitalization is legal. A parent can beat you senseless as long as they don't break bones or send you to the hospital.

Open-handed strikes (slaps) are generally not considered abuse unless they are excessive or cause permanent injury. It really depends on where you live.

As a general rule, sexual abuse involves actions that stimulate the perpetraitor, regardless of how the victim perceives them. If spanking you is just an act of violence, and does not sexually stimulate your father, it is not sexual abuse. If spanking you gives him a woody, then it is sexual abuse. If massaging your feet gives him a woody, then that is also sexual abuse. If his intent is to hurt you and degrade you, that is just physical abuse. If his intent is to make an excuse to put his hand on your ***, that is sexual abuse.

To be more graphic, a father may jam a 2x4 up his daughter's privates just to cause pain, with no sexual intent (like kicking his son in the balls), but involving a sexual organ makes it sexual abuse. The buttocks is not considered a sexual organ, and is therefore not protected in the same way that the vagina, breasts, or anus is. Sorry, but there's no delicate way to describe the difference.

In either case, however, it sounds like you're being subject to some type of abuse, whether it's physical or sexual. You need to contact someone outside of the home before it will stop.

EDIT: Everyone above is telling you that you are being abused because they take your story at face value. I only believe one third of what you say, because there are three sides to every story: your side, his side, and the truth. Judges, for the most part, follow this formula, too.

Are you in school? Show these pictures to your teacher or to the school principal. They are required to take action, by law. Also, you can take these pictures to your local police department and state that you want to press charges. You can write and send these pictures to your district attorney's office or to the attorney general of your state (include in your letter all the attempts you tried to make to press charges with your local police department). Also, you can contact Child Protective services. They will investigate and file charges for you.

normobrian, if those pictures do not represent abuse, then what stuff are you on???

Don't listen to that moron.

100% abuse