i'm 15 (i'll be 16 in two months), i live in oklahoma, and i'm looking to be emancipated. my mother died when i was 12 and he's never been the same since. i feel worthless in his eyes, because he's told me so.
he values money more than happiness and he doesn't support me in decisions i make.
i've tried to move away from him, but he won't let me. i should be getting my license in december and a job soon after. i still wish to attend high school and go to college.
my dad keeps saying that the social security money from my mother's death is all his until i'm 18. i need this money so i can go to college and get started on life, but he says it's all his and he can do whatever he wants with it.
i need to know the process of getting emancipated and what it requires. i honestly have no idea about paying bills or car insurance or buying a house or car or even doctors or anything!
i have no idea what i'm getting myself into, but i need to get away from him and i need help. all my family is really close with each other.
everyone in my family has no respect for my brother or myself.
the people on my mom's side isn't even remotely reliable, and i'd rather not push myself into other people's lives.
i want to do this on my own, but i've got no where to go.
i suppose i could ask my counselor when school starts back up. In order to be emancipated,you have to prove to a court that you are fully able to support yourself. That means paying rent,food,utilities,car expenses,etc.
As far as the Social Security money goes,that is given to your father to help support you because of your mothers passing. The money belongs to him until you are 18. He will receive this money until you turn 18 or if you are still in HS,you will receive it until the month of your graduation. The checks will come in your name once you turn 18,but not before. There is no way you can get the money sent to you as you are a minor. If you were to become emancipated,the money from SS will stop. It will also stop after your HS graduation,it does not continue past that time.
I would suggest talking to a counselor at school or perhaps your Pastor. Being out on your own is not easy and I don't know how you would even be able to pull it off without dropping out of school which is a terrible idea. You cannot support yourself on a part time job.
I'm sure you both are suffering because of your mothers death. Try not to be too hard on your Dad,he is probably having a hard time coping with all of this too. Everyone grieves in a different way. I'm sure he has alot of pressure on him now that he is the only parent. It isn't easy to raise a teenager,especially a father raising a daughter.
Try to stick it out at home. Sit down and talk to your dad. Maybe you can both come to a compromise and be able to understand each other better. You could do a few little independent things while you wait. Get an interview for a job so that you have a little money for yourself.
You are likely to be too clingy and too trusting of anybody once oyu get out on your own. Is there nobody at all to ask? Surely you are still at school and can ask a counsellor?
Good luck you are not worthless in my eyes your not worthless but your loved This may have hurt him but try to help and get a job so you can help I totally agree with jasmyn above me...
i am going through a similar thng, but its both of my parents.Im 15, and about to be 16. i cant stand living with them either. They get on my last nerve and i cant even be myself around them because they disapprove of everything i am and everything i want to be. And they abuse of me verbally and sometimes they hit me.
i want to get emancipated to, but i cant... its a long process.
you have to find a family member you can really trust or a very good friend that is willing to take you in and then you have to go to court and all of that mess. Its very hard.
For now, i would just give you some advice of the things that I do:
i have a part time job at my school cafeteria so i buy my own things and Im stashing up my money as much as i can, so that when im 18 i can get the hell outta here. I keep telling my mom that in two years ill be out of her way and she will be happy without me. She keeps saying that she will "see" how i can survive without her, and i WILL prove it to her. I also keep out of my parents way and keep them out of my life. But,i dont do stupid things. And i dont do things that get me in trouble. After high school i will go to a good college. Im keepin my grades up, to be able to do that. Trust me, you DONT need your parent to be able to go to college. u just need to be 18 for a student loan.
i also dont talk to my parents only when i need to, like if they ask me a question or to tell them where im going. They are SO strict. they think im a horrible daughter, but they dont realize that im really inocent. I only rely on my 'rents for food. But, when im 18 i will have enough money to buy my own things.
So for now just stay where u are and avoid arguments.
good luck. and its good to know that im not the only one that want an emancipation. Well I don't know the rules of emancipation. But girl, I would advise you to hang in there. You are gonna be eighteen soon.
Its a tough world out there. Its VERY expensive to live on you own especially at such a young age. You wont be able to work full-time anywhere til your 18...so you aren't going to have a great income on your side (which is going to make your life impossible)
Gas is incredibly expensive right now and it's going to get worse. Add that to a rent for an apartment and paying bills, and food is up the roof too. Plus, clothes...then insurance (car, health)
I don't think you are ready for this yet... you really really have to rethink this.
I am so sorry that your mother passed. That is so unfortunate, and that must have been unbearable for you. You are strong for making it and you sound pretty mature for you age.
However sweety, just girt your teeth and bear it just a little longer...you might be making a big mistake taking on an adult life too soon.
Be strong now because things will get better... it might be stormy now... but it cant rain forever. Jasmynne is correct about how hard it would be to get out on your own, but if you are serious, look in the phone book for Legal Aid. They represent people who cannot afford a lawyer. I don't know if your dad taking your mother's social security money is legal. When you're 18, you can continue to receive that money if you go to college.
You need to contact the Social Security Administration and find out how to get the money sent to you and not your father.
Legal Aid can probably arrange to have your social security money sent directly to an account where it will be held in trust until you are 18.
I doubt you have enough grounds for emancipation. Family courts act in the best interest of the child. If you are not being abused (other than psychologically), I doubt they'd emanciapate you. I also doubt they'd emancipate you if you didn't have a job and had nowhere to go. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm guessing there are no other family members you can live with? If you live with someone else then they can petition for guardianship and get the social security money.
I doubt you will be granted emancipation at your age without your father's consent. You aren't old enough to be out on your own and admittedly have no clue how to do it. Perhaps you have a good friend whose family would be willing to take you in?
I'm sorry I have no concrete answers for you. Good luck to you and I hope this has been somewhat helpful. there's medicine you can take for that and i promise you'll be crapping your brains out in like 10 minutes | 