I was staying away over night and i found out my boyfriend was on the computer with porn?

He was also using the web cam, he said he was only using the light on it. He was on granny porn and hes in his 40s and i am 29. He denys it but he was the only one in the house.He always led me to beleive he wasnt like that or i wouldnt of been with him today.His lies make it worse.He even said to my 13yr old neice once she had a right slapable bum.He said to my sister to walk in front so he could check her bum out!. I feel ive no respect for myself being in this relationship, I cant see it lasting much more at this rate, he is a womaniser i cant even have my neices round.

Well get out and leave him to his perversions. My ex was like that. I found images of transexuals on his computer, hidden porn videos among regular videos etc - and although he lived alone he still denied it! He is now a recluse but that's his choice. I feel so much stronger now and I'm in a relationship with a lovely bloke now.
You can't trust this bloke - so you'll only be miserable - and maybe he'll make the lives of your female relatives miserable as well.

Honey, find another boyfriend

dont know what yourr frettin about

could have been worse...

he could have had gay porn on there... or necrophilia.

Just keep as eye on him when you visit your grannies at Christmas

ur dating a old guy. if any guy watches granny porn their sick so just dump him

DUMP HIM , COULD GET WORSE

ew.. checking out people half your age. okay girl you definately don't want yourself in a risk specially not your loved ones. get out of this quick. & porn.. lol he sound's desperate !

Time to say Good bye to him!!!!!!!!!

If all you want is to get laid, he could be O.K..

If your looking for love, keep looking

Great, move on, he sounds like he has a seroius addiction and you deserve better

Looking at a 13 yr old, sounds like a pedo to me

First of all, pornagraphy is addictive. In fact, it is the largest media industry today. When media test out new things, they test it out on porn first.

The more a person watches porn, the less satisfied they are when having sex. They become immune to their partner's ways, because they have seen "perfect" sex. They also have a tendency to stray to look for that "perfect" sex.

Tell him to get help, or YOU SHOULD GET OUT. There is no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Sounds like he's a liar and a bad influence, your doing the right thing. I've been known to visit a site or two but I never make comments like that to family or friends. Do the right thing....show him the door.....you'll be better off.........good luck

This isn't a question, it is just venting but I guess that's okay. It sounds like he's a bum man for sure. Good luck with that, hope it works out for you.

I think you know the answer.

ditch him you deserve much better this is only my opinion of course but I am old enough and wise enough to have an opinion

To quote an old song by Simon and Garfunkel, titled "Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover: Just slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan. You don't need to be coy Roy. Just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus. You don't need to discuss much. Just drop off the key Lee and get yourself free.

In other words. Leave. Leave now.

so the dude likes porn doesnt every bloke? everyone has there fantasy and if his happens to be grannys then thats up to him hes still in the relationship so it seems to me like it is just a fantasy as for the 13 year old and checkin out your sisters bum yea ok thats abit wrong

firstly i dont think there's anything wrong with a guy watching porn, as much as we may hate them doin it we aren't going to stop them! (Granny porn is just a no no though) But, saying that to your niece is just wrong especially because of her age.

i dont think he can have much respect for you, go out and find yourself a younger guy who will respect you more

have fun looking xxx

why were you away over night?
Watcha get up to?

You sound like you know what to do? Get rid of him plenty more fish in the sea and your only 29?

He sounds like a sexual deviant.things will only get worse end it now..

think you have answered your own question ....get rid of him now... he might be harmless enough but..... when the doubts set in .... no trust he has to go sad but good luck in the future your only young have some fun with someone nearer your own age ....

that is one horrible person.
i could never tolerate a person like that to be around a niece of mine or any relative. he not that into you plus he might harm you loved ones id say kick him out of your life before its too late to fix the problems he is causing you.
you cant change the past but you don't live so work on fixing a better future because that's where you will live.

ahahah grarnny porn

hahah rofl

porns okay .... men are programmed to like womens curves. men view the world more visually than women too. But the granny stuff ......urrgh. this guy needs to clean his mind and grow some moral standards, maybe he was just curious or something but if he viewed it more than once or twice then he has a problem.
As for saying those things, id let it fly maybe once, but if i saw even the slightest suggestion towards your niece again then its time to tell the freak where to go.

If he was satisfied with the relationship, then he wouldn't bother with the porn because he has all he needs. But if he does bother with porn then tht means he's not satisfied. Then why should you stay with someone who has an unsatifiable addiction? If he looks at other girls then it common sense to know that he is not totally commited to you. Find someone who is. Someone who REALLY wants you wouldn't look at other girls in the first place.

Run Tracey run like the wind.....
the remark to your 14 year old niece is completely unacceptable all other issues just add to the RUN factor

One statement....few words

LEAVE THIS PERVERT NOW!

Here are some more words...

Who knows what he is capable of when you are not around, but other females are? Especially your nieces?

Why are you still with this guy?

Leave already...no man is worth this nonsense.

Big question that begs a lot more questions. First, calm down and think rationally and relationally. How long have you been together and how many "incidents have there been". How do they make you feel and for how long. If its few and far between, don't worry. How does he handle them and reassure you? As for the porn, most men at some time look at it, especially when apart from their gal. If its only once in a while and nothing weird (and no granny porn ain't that weird, not at his age. From experience most would only be 10 years older than him, and you're younger than him by more than 10 years.) Now for the lying, its not good, but if it is your strong expectation that he have any interest in porn, and not his proclivity against it, than it is a reasonable expectation to calm you down. Talk you him seriously but not condemmingly about his porn use and see if it is well outside your bounds or if your bounds are way to tight for how little he uses it. The comments to the niece. OK, made some like that to my niece- one funny, one to remind her that her big mouth and age did not preclude a good spanking for use of said mouth. Joking occasionally is not bad. Too much and too inappropriately is. Same with the sister. Talk it out and evaluate based on the answers and events over time. God Bless!

just get rid love ain't worth the hassle if you ask me,

He sounds like a great guy.

Sorry, but maybe you are expecting too much from him?