In view of the inequalities that have come into being in the last few decades it is more than time that males have some of their own rights codified into law in order to bring about equality.
Male Equal Rights Act
1. Male Legal Abortion
A man should have a set time period, between 7-30 days perhaps, after being informed he is involved in a pregnancy to decide if he wants to become a parent or not. If he chooses not to he signs a non-reversible document giving up all parental rights for life, and he no longer has any responsibility to the woman. If she then chooses to continue the pregnancy and have the child it is 100% her responsibility. No man should be able to force a woman to be a parent, no woman should be able to force a man to. Equal protection of the law.
2. Non-Custodial Parent Protection - Visitation
The criminal justice system should place EXACTLY the same vigor into enforcing a non-custodial parents right to visit his child or children that it does in making sure that parent pays their support. Continued interference in visitation by the custodial parent should lead to their forfeiting their rights as a custodial parent, criminal charges, fines and jail time.
3. Non-Custodial Parent Protection - Child Support Accountability
The custodial parent should be required to account for all child support payments and exactly how the money was used to support the child. Failure to do so should be criminal, and lead to a new hearing deciding which parent should be custodial. Civil penalties should also be possible for all money unaccounted for.
4. False Accusations Of Abuse Protection
It has become nearly a standard tactic in all child custody hearings for the woman to accuse the man of both physical and sexual abuse of the child. Nobody is even surprised when it happens, and when it is proved to be false nothing is done. It should become a felony to make such false charges. If such charges are made and upon investigation they are found to be not only false, but groundless, the person making them should immediately forfeit all right to custody, and visitation, face felony charges, and major fines. The party that was falsely accused should also have the right to civil suit relief for the damage to their reputation as well.
5. False Accusations Of Paternity Protection
It should be a felony to falsely accuse someone of paternity of a child. The only exception should be if a list of possible fathers is submitted, evidence is offered that all were possibly the father, and one of them proves to be the father. I鈥檝e known 3 men who were forced to pay child support for years only to find later that not only where they not the father, but that the mother had known it all along. The mother in this case should be forced to repay all payments with interest, and spend years in jail on top of it.
6. Failure To Inform Of Paternity Protection
Conversely, I have known men who found after their children were in their teens, that they had children that the mother hid from them. It should be a felony, and a loss of all custodial rights for a woman to hide from a man his involvement in a child.
Do you support such measures? Can you think of other protections men should have in the law? Which do you support and which do you not support? What reasons do you have for your positions? Note to Kaisergi:
Your argument is the very same one Pro-Lifers use to say women would not be allowed to have an abortion. How is it different for men? 14th Amendment demands equal protection of the law for all classes. Women have a choice, the Constitution demands men get one too.
BTW I have never been involved in an unwanted pregnancy. Nor will I ever be now (ship snip). That all sounds fairly reasonable to me, so long as the same rights are extended to women in the same circumstances (as in the child support item and the abuse claims). I especially think the parts about a man being able to sign off on an unwanted child and the accounting for how child support is spent are relevant. Both people are responsible for getting pregnant, and if a girl chooses to become a single mother, knowing theman is not interested in parenthood, then she is choosing just that -- to parent solely.
In my state, we have child support MasterCards -- they are just like debit cards, with child support payments made added to the balance of the cards. In my position as a part-time cashier at a neighbourhood convenience store, I see people -- male & female -- using these cards to buy beer, cigarettes and lottery tickets. It make my blood boil, it really does. As a person who has both paid and received child support at various times in my life, I have always thought there should be more accountability in how the monies paid are spent.
I have also seen the ill effects when a man doesn't find out until far into a child's life that he has a child. It happened to my sister's first husband. When my sister was pregnant with their daughter, they both found out that he had a first daughter, born almost three years prior. Though he has moved on and out of both girls' lives, and even though they have a close sisterly relationship, it was underhanded and lousy of her mother to keep it from him. Sometimes people other than the father are hurt in situations like this.
Added to this list, I would like to see changes that take into consideration what is provided for a child by each parent when determining how much, and indeed, if any, child support is to be paid. I know people who aren't custodial parents, yet who have their kids all the time and do more parenting than the physical-custody-having parents do, and who are still forced to pay child support. This same consideration should be made regardless of the sex of the custodial and non-custodial parent. I would support 2 & 4. I think he others are over-reaching. of course I support them. There is no reason for any man, or any person in general that supports equal rights to have any objection.
I would include an equality in the military divorce payment scheme. As it stands, a woman and man in the military: same branch, job, rank, whatever, divorce......she gets a portion of his retirement pay, but not the other way around. OK then have fun getting that to work. The moment you decide to have unprotected sex with any woman you are automatically held accountable for your actions if a baby was to occur. It's YOUR sperm that you gave her willingly. YOu dont want to worry about some woman having your baby and asking for child support? WEAR A CONDOM. The only one that I partially disagree on is number 2 because, every case is different. You could have a father that does pay support consistantly but, if the mother feels uncomfortable because he does things to endanger his children then she should have some right to protect the kids. As far as any additional things that needs to made law, I have a few more Ideas myself.
Upon the birth of a child, DNA testing should be mandatory in every hospital. Notifying men of the truth on the spot, if they are not a match.
If a man is expected to work, and pay child support, the woman should only be allowed so much time to be a stay at home mother. This is one thing that cripples the welfare system because, women have the right to sit as long as they choose but, are not held accountable financially the same as a man. A man cannot sit at home because he has child support to pay, or he will get arrested. Any woman can claim the title of a stay at home mother but, titles alone should not give them this right.
In custody issues, custody should be fairly accessed, and not ever based upon gender itself again. Custody should be granted not based upon sex but, by who the court deems the more fit parent from the start. Any judge that is proven to make his or her decision based upon gender alone should be disbarred, and fired.
If the custodial parent chooses not to work in a joint custody situation, and the father has the children half of the time, the father should have full right to claim all children between them on his taxes. If the custodial parent does not contribute any benefits to the child except home care, and medicade through welfare, then the mother should be penalized for not doing her part.
If a man or woman has physical custody of the children in a joint custody arrangement, and constantly is not spending any time with the children and is sending them off to other family members so they are not bearing much any parental involvement when they have the children, they should loose custody to the other parent that wants to be more in their life.
If a man or woman knowingly makes false alligations of abuse to gain custody of the children, they should spend atleast 1year in prison, and then have supervised visitation for a period upon release.
If a man has been paying support on a child for many years that he has always believed to be his own, and then finds out later that the child does not belong to him, he should still have the right to see the child without having to pay support to the mother. A calculation of support paid to the mother should be enforced that the mother pays back every last dime to the falsely accused father upon the childs 18th birthday. Also the mother should have fraud on her record. If the mother gets behind on payments, they should be sent to jail, the same as a support paying father would be if he was to get behind. It therefore should be made law that DNA testing should be a total factor in paying support in the first place. Praternity facts, and not accusations, should be the only thing to determine support.
If a woman has multiple sex partners, and cannot determine who is the father of the child is she will forfit all welfare assistance. If she cannot take care of the child by herself after that point, the custody of the child can be granted to another family member or, the state in which they reside.
If the custodial parent fails to keep their child/ren out of trouble with the law, the other parent if deemed fit, can obtain full custody of the child by law.
If the custodial parent interferes with the non custodial parents love life using the children as a tool to do so,(false alligations of abuse,or any other means), they loose custody automatically to the non custodial parent.
Parents who choose to work together for the well being of the children should both be given a tax incentive for not placing a burden on the welfare system when the custodial parent is employed, and does their fair share of providing for the children in question.
Services should be totally free for women to be sterylized if they cannot find who the father of her children is. The same should apply for both sexes if they choose to give up all rights to the custody of their children to avoid support.
These are just a few off the top of my head that i would like to see passed as law but, they are rough and maybe a few need to be refined. But, I totally agree that something needs to be done not only for mens rights, but for the childrens as well. You cant protect children, if you don't protect the rights of their fathers. The system is way far from equal right now, and untill enough of us stand together things will never change for the better.
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2. AGREE
3. PARTIALLY AGREE- the custodial parent should not have to account for every dollar as this would be tedious and ultimately inaccurate, the custodial parent should, however, have to claim child support on their taxes as earned income instead of it being free money
4. PARTIALLY AGREE- in a false claim you do have the right to file a general civil action for defamation/slander for each account imposed and then again for half attorney fees paid for legal defense
5. PARTIALLY AGREE-this has happened many times and I've always seen the Biological Father being responsible for repaying the Alleged Father for all child support paid and not the custodial parent, for some reason they seem to be exempt from harm or liability
6. AGREE- this goes against the entire policy set forth by the Child Custody Act
7. The Child support paid by the noncustodial parent should be claimed on taxes as child care expenses |
