Dear Sir and/or Maam
I'm writing this letter in regards to my sister. She was recently in a child custody case
& I do not believe that justice was served.. In the following
I will tell you 3 stories at which I believe will shock you and prove what I say is just.
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The first story is of her oldest child. A daughter. The daughter is 9 years old
and an honor roll student who this year recieved a merit "O" award for being on the honor
roll the whole year. My sister became pregnant with her at the young age of 14. The man
whom is her father was at the time 18. When she informed
him of the pregnancy he went to tell his father and the mother of his other children. From the
information we later recieved we learned from his brother that on his way back from Tulsa to
Okemah he took an entire bottle of Pills, he then drove over to our house spent about 15-30 minutes
speaking with my sister,then left and had a wreck 3 blocks from our home. The next morning his brother
showed up at our door and told us about it and was asking if we knew if he took anything. He told us
that he had overdosed and they had to pump his stomach. he and his father showed up at our door to ask what
the options were for the baby. My mother told them that abortion was out of the question because
we do not believe in them and that my sister was keeping the child.They then offered to pay her any
amount of money to abort the child After being turned down They left and we didn't see
him for 4 more years and that was only because my sister filed with the Dhs child support
and they requested a dna. The DNA came back 99.99 %. Still we did not see him again until
the day of her 5th birthday. He called and asked my sister if he could see her and my sister
let him. Over the next 4 years I would say that he has visited her 4-5 times a year.He sued
for custody once but was only granted visitation every other weekend at the daughter's decretion. If she said
He could not force her.
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My second story is of her 4 year old son. My sister married a man
in the year 2004. They had their son in the year 2003. During the year my sister was pregnant by this man
he was arrested on several misdameanor drug charges. They divorced 6 months later because this man could
not give up his beer. Since then this man has taken her to court at least 5 times. Each time he was
only allowed standard visitation.(My sister later remarried a man in the Navy and moved to Virginia
after she got the all clear sign from her attorney. This man couldn't afford to fly out for visitation.
So upon returning from Virginia my sister and her attorney agreed to let this man have her son
every other week for the whole week for the next 4 months to make up for the visitation he missed.)
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My last story is concerning my sisters youngest child a 1 year old daughter who
belongs to her current husband(soon-to-be-ex). My sister and this man married in
2005. My sister moved to Viringia with him since that was were the Navy stationed him.My sister later returned
to Oklahoma and remained married but, they are now filing for divorce. He is being sent to
sea for 4 years of sea duty.He is only fighting to sign rights over to his parents He himself will not be raising this child.
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Now here is the twist in my story. My sister and her first husband were scheduled to go to court
to redo their custody since the first man had made up his time missed seeing
that my sister was only in Virginia for about 5 months. Well we were then informed her current husband would be going
to court with her that day too before with her first husband and then her oldest daughters father would be following. When we
got there it was a closed court room. The only ones suppose to be aloud in there were the man suing
for custody, his attorney, my sister and her attorney and the judge. Well it was not that way.
the 3 men were allowed to combine their cases and fight her as one and testify for each
other. So in the court room were my sister, her attorney,all 3 men and their attorneys
and This Judge. They called in 2 witnesses both were supenade by her first husband. They were her sons
teacher and his school superintended . The superintended testified
that her son always looked cleaned, well dressed and well taken care of when my sister brought him to school.
His teacher contradicted that and said that he was dirty. Then all 3 men
were allowed to testify where they bashed her. The judge and/or my sisters attorney
caught them all in at least 1 lie and her first husband was caught in 3. He also refused to submit to a
drug test. They brought no papers, no statments ,no physical proof of neglect, abuse, or misconduct
on my sister. In fact once just a few months ago her first husband and his attorny went to court alone with dhs
to pull records and prove her unfit and dhs testified that all reports made on my sister we false
and they found her to be a fit mother capable of caring for her children and the judge they went infront of
(diffrent from the judge in the current custudy case) had it dismissed
So all this judge has to go on was the word of these 3 men who don't pay child support regularly. 3
men who ganged up on her.He never took in any of her witnesses or put her on the stand. He closed
court and ruled that all 3 fathers were granted temp-custody until they returned to court a month from now
On ground of what the boys testomy implied.They all accussed her of being bi=polar yet they had no
medical records to back this and none of them are doctors. This judge is taking a 9 year old girl from
the only home and parent she has known and letting a parent who sees her 4-5 times a year take her to
Arkansas. He is doing this without a transistanal councler. If the childs best interest were being
served wouldnt tramitc situations be avoided. He is taking a 4 year old boy and giving him to a known
drug user. He is giving a 1 year old little girl to a man with very immoral conduct and that will
have to sign custody over to his parents so that he can go out on his military order to sea for 4 years
so this man wont even be raising his own child.On top of that fact he hasn't seen her in about 4
months.Not only that he is seperating them from their siblings and family.From a mother who has cared for them
on her own, a mother that doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs and has no crimanal record.If he was concerned for the child
why wasnt someone who was in their life everyday appointed guardingship until court decided like my mother or I?
Does this sound like the best interest of the child is being met? Does this sound like justice
is being served? Does this sound like my sister's Civil rights were served? Im sure most people I'm
sending this to will agree it does not! both have righs and the courts are going to see as well that the mother has conflicts of interest over diffrent man and that in it's self will be on a losing side for her and with other children as well she will be lucky to keep them if she is not married and settled down. I know what your going through. I've been through it too. I've had to pay $13,000 to my attorney to proove my son's dad was full of lies. My son was 2 at the time, and his dad only paid $160 per month child support. He always had plenty of money to keep taking me to mediation and file for custody though. My son turned 9 after my third child was born, so my hands were already pretty full. I didnt have any money or emotional strength to continue fighting him, so I let my son live with his dad. It was hard on me the first couple years, and I still suffer from a little depression because of it. I still get to see him every-other weekend though, and I get him 1/2 of his summer vacation and his other school vacations.
Sometimes it just feels good to know there are other people in the same situation, you and your sister are not alone. |
