What should or can I do about child custody on my unborn child?

I'm currently 33 weeks pregnant. The baby's father and I split up due to the fact that he was having sex with men he met on craigslist and adam4adam behind my back. I never even saw this coming and it was very devastating and painful. The worst part is that most of our friends said that they were not surprised at his behavior. Not only that but I was supporting the both of us during the time that we were together, so while I was at working trying to make a living for the both of us, he was doing all of this, instead of looking for a job himself.
Anyways, he threatened to seek full custody of the child and thinks it should be no problem since he has a well-paying job and I am on welfare. Its not like I haven't been looking for a job, its just that no body will hire an 8 month pregnant lady. Also, he smokes pot but he can always buy detox products and pass a drug test that way. I dont want him to ever see his child, or at least not for a long time. What should I do?

Just like he would have to prove you were unfit as a mother you would have to prove him unfit as a father. All the things you mention, with the exception of pot smoking, do not necessarily mean he would be a bad father. And even if they did catch him on that he could agree to drug treatment and still have visitation rights. If he thinks he can get full custody because of his financial status, he also would be wrong. But his making good money will only mean he will have to pay more child support. I realize you are hurt and angry about his behavior. And you have every right to feel this way. But the fact of the matter is, is that this is about the child. Not you and not him. The courts will base their decision on what is best for the child only. And no matter how bad a person you feel he is, he is still the childs father and has every right to see his child. Fighting between you and him will do nothing but damage your child. If you really are most concerned with your child then you need to find some way that the two of you can get along and raise this child together even though you are apart. You know there are many men out there that would love to just walk away from their child and never offer any financial or emotional support. If you have a man that is willing to be involved in his childs life then you need realize how important this is going to be to your child for many years to come. Your child is going to be here soon. Children can sense your moods. You need to work on getting over the hurt and anger so that these emotions are not projected to your child. You don't have to like this man but you will be tied to him for life now that you two have a child together. It is very important to your childs well being that you two learn how to be civil to each other. I wish you the best of luck on your new baby!

As soon as baby is born you must file for custody in court because whoever has the baby has custody as long as ther eis no court order, meaning if he takes the child then you cant get him back without going to court. Alert your caseworker now and contact legal aid asap.

In 'most' States no hearing for custody can be held until the baby is born.

Once the baby is born, the default in virtually all States these days is for joint legal custody, with the mother getting physical custody. If he wants physical custody, or if either of you want full legal custody, then a motion will have to be filed with the court asking for a custody order.

Only in very extreme cases will a court give physical custody of a newborn to anyone other than the mother.

"I dont want him to ever see his child, or at least not for a long time. What should I do?"

You can 'ask' the court to deny him visitation, but that's something they do only in VERY, VERY extreme circumstances.

Richard

Well, at this time the courts are usually unwilling to take children away from their mother, and are REALLY unwilling to give that child to a gay man. The courts will probably assign someone to you to assess how much money you could be making if you were to get a job. If that amount of money is insufficient, they may give the baby to his/her father. Or, they may just make the father pay you child support.
I'm confused, though. You said he was cheating instead of trying to find work, and then you said he was a well-paying job. Usually people do not just apply for and receive well-paying jobs... you have to work up towards them. Also, well-paying jobs usually drug test, which is a check against the charge of him smoking pot.
Then you said that you had been working the whole time he was slacking off, followed by the accusation that no one will hire a pregnant woman, indicating joblessness. Could you straighten this out for me, please?
If he doesn't smoke, has a good job, doesn't have a criminal record, cannot be proven to be gay/cheating, and you're unemployed and on welfare, you may not get to keep your baby full-time.

First of all DO NOT NAME HIM AS THE FATHER on the birth certificate. Save any documnetstion of his going on's ie: Adam4ADAM etc, e mails, phone bills etc,.. Cleansing products do not always clean the system, toe nail or fingernail clippings and hair can tell the drug history for the last few months. ANything that a lawyer or the courts can see that he is unstable and not reliable to care for your child. Hope I helped even a little. Hang in there- your baby needs you.