What should I do in this situation?

First of all this ex of mine broke up with me and cheated two weeks before our wedding while I was four months pregnant. What a catch, right?

Well now I鈥檓 organizing an adoption for our baby since we are both barely twenty, and neither of us are ready to be single parents...

He told me that we could plan the adoption but he won't hesitate to back out last minute and not sign adoption papers.

How can I should I handle this situation? He just wants to plan things and cancel last minute, AGAIN!

He has rights because he knows I鈥檓 pregnant with his child. Also if he had full custody he would just drop the child off at his mom's. she is an alcoholic.

Don't put his name on the birth certificate. Do not claim his as the father or name the baby after him. He would have to go to the courts and get DNA to prove paternity if you do not admit it is his baby.

Most guys will not go through all that trouble and you have full custody of the child unless you say he is the father or he gets the testing through the courts.

Plus since you never married I don't think you need his consent to put up for adoption. (you should double check that with your state laws though)

First you can't force him to sign, second you should have though about this before sex. Third and most important thing, call a lawyer any advice you get here will not matter every state has its own laws and in this type case you could end up in deep trouble if you ignore any of them. Child custody is very entangled and hard to define from state to state.

why not just ask the adoption agency?

oh not agency?

then either choose to do it with experienced people at an agency who can assist you with such matters, or hire an attorney to do the same, or do it alone and take your chances on what you know is coming...

btw, it takes 2 to make a baby, so maybe you are not such a catch either - after all you not only hooked up with him, but thought it a good idea to get pregnant and married at 20 (not sure which order that happened).

seriously, get an attorney - there are plenty in the local yellow pages offering a free consultation, and even if you have to pay for an hour or two of someone's time, it will be worth it.

and just so you know, he has no rights until the baby is born, so if you decided to NOT have the baby, that is your business, not his.

Well legally I'm not sure what you can do. However if he does gain sole custody of your child and drops it off at his alcoholic mother's house, you can have children's services go after him and the child will be put in a group home etc.

Not sure if this is legal but you could lie and say the child isn't his, don't put his name on the birth certificate. Sure, he can constest it but would have to get a paternity test and so on.. and he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who has good follow-through. (I'd save that trick until the last minute)