Signing away rights and adoption please someone help me please?

when i was 18, now 22 i made a bad choice i was at a party,was drinking and some guys gave me pills (yes i know stupid a big mistake) well i became pregnant with a 32 year old male, who i didnt even know..

he has been in and out of jail his whole life and he is a VERY VERY bad person in general.. well he is in jail right now and he only seen our daughter one time and he called her a slut and everyting.. she was only 18 months.. hes a horrible person who is playing that he cares about her just to get to me and my fiance..

well im getting married soon and i was wondering if there is anyway my husband can adopt her even if her real father dont sign away his rights..

her real father wants to go to court for visitations when he gets out.. but hes a duggie and everything.. i dont want him near her..

also .. hes not on the birth certificate.. but when i took him for childsupport we signed a paper stating hes the father

is there anything i can do so he dont see her ever?

also pleaes dont judge me and be mean, i know what i did was wrong and i leared from my mistakes and my daughter was a mircle not a mistake.


and is there anyways my fiance when we get married adopt her since the real father isnt on the birth certificate.. but i did take him for child support

I am not sure of the laws of the state where you live. I would suggest you consult with an attorney. Be completely honest with him. The sperm donor for your daughter sounds like a real loser and I hope you can get him out of your life.

Good luck in your upcoming marriage. I will keep you and your little family in my prayers.

He will be paying child support until she is 18. Once you get the DA's office on it they are GOD. It is almost impossible to terminate his rights unless he is abusive to her and the state takes her away from both of you...

You need to talk to an attorney or at least go to legal aide and ask for advice.

Good luck.

As stated above you need to see a lawyer about this. It seems likely that you can prove that he is unfit, and your new husband could adopt. But you need to talk to a professional.

Geesh.. two sides to every story. Many fathers are signed out of the child's life, and it can be "wrong" in some cases. On the other hand, thousands of bio fathers WANT NOTHING to do with a child, and are only too happy to hear that someone wants to adopt the child, and relieve them from child support. Still more can and do threaten the mom that they are going to "take the baby away" or get custody rights, when they have no intent of doing so, and just want to make life hell for the mother (in retaliation for child support).
Courts want to be sure that a child does have a parent, AND one that is going to support the child. Meaning.. they don't want to terminate father's rights, if it leaves the child out in the cold. So, the normal is that it DOES MATTER that there is a planned adoption.
What needs to be done is to petition the court to decide.. and if dad is CLEARLY unfit, with evidence (gosh, jail seems like some kind of evidence, right?) then it can happen. Dad can contest it, and present his side of the story. Does not mean he will win. It will be up to the judge, to evaluate the situation.

You can have your new husband adopt her. Technically, the ex isn't on the birth certificate which is really good. He would have to petition the court to gets his rights, etc., including a DNA test to establish paternity. That will take a long time. Since he is in jail, don't even worry about him. Go ahead with the adoption. He may or may not even be the father as far as you're concerned. Since he has never paid anything or even bothered with her he is nothing to your daughter. Have your husband adopt her and when you get married, don't let your ex be involved in anything. Don't even contact him, have people keep him informed, etc. He needs to stay where he is. Good luck to you and your new life.

I dont think so, simply because he is the father, and you did sign papers specifically stating that. You can, however, go to court and file for FULL CUSTODY or supervised visitation only. Save all letters, conversations, all correspondence from him whatsoever that is damning to his case and that will help you prove yours. If you have witnesses, make sure they also save ANY USEFUL information. With his record being in jail, and everything you have stated, you have a lot in your favor. You could also tell him if he will sign over all rights to your daughter that you will not make him pay child support. He may go for it, I know several dads that have. So, I would approach him with that first, if he says no, proceed with court.