Question about father of baby threatening to petition to get my baby put up for adoption when it's born...

well the father of my baby that I'm pregnant with is now saying that he's going to check into things and see if he can petition for me to have to put my baby up for adoption...
which I think is totally bogus and he cant do that but just incase I wanted to ask what others thought and /or know about this...
by the way,he is in Canada and I'm in USA....
He's upset because I refused to have an abortion and so he dumped me because of this and now he wants me to give it up for adoption and because I won't he's now threatening this.....I asked him today what his intentions were and if he was going to sign the birth certificate and thats when he said that he didnt know,that he had to look into it to seeifhe should or not and he also said that about the adoption thing that im asking about.....

Let me tell you girl from personal experience that children that are born out of wedlock are safe with their mothers. He has no rights over the child. His Canadian laws cannot interfere with the laws here because this is were you and the child reside. Don't leave here. In the great United States the mother has all rights to the child born when not married. Don't marry him either because then he could do more because you will both have rights to the child automatically. Until that time he has nothing but threats for you and that I can guarantee! So don't let him stress you out. By the way, even if he signs the affidavit of parentage and the birth certificate he still won't have rights to the child. You do want him to sign the affidavit of parentage if you can because that states on there that the mother has all custody and legal rights, but if he won't don't sweat it...it's in our laws that you will have all the rights already. Good luck. And don't worry about him if he is going to act like a loser. You don't want your child growing up around a supposed father that may love them one minute and not the next. They will only grow up with heart ache. You and that baby deserve better girl! Good luck and I hope you find better!! Best wishes and congrats on your new baby!!! ;-)

He is full of hot air. Idle threats. The child is yours and he cannot force you to abort it or give it up for adoption. He is upset because he will have to pay child support.

Don't let his words upset you because he cannot do what he is threatening to do.

Best wishes to you and your little one.

short answer: he can give up his parental rights, but he can't give yours up. you cannot lose your parental rights unless you give them up or are an unfit parent (abusive or neglectful). you may need to see a family law attorney about your rights in this matter, and whether you should obtain an order of support so he is forced to provide for this child that he had a part in conceiving.

Relax, he is full of crap. He is trying to get out of paying child support and the court will not allow this to happen. He sounds like a dirt bag that you are well rid of. He cannot force you to give up your baby.

Unless you're mentally incapacitated and he's the one legally designated to make decisions for you, it's not going to happen.

#1. He does not actually have to sign the birth certificate. You simply name him as the father on it. If he wishes to argue the fact, he will have to get a DNA test to prove he is not the father. (Your word is that he is the father, his word will be is that he is not, DNA will prove it either way.)

#2. He can file anything he wants. But for him to file a petition to put the kid up for adoption, he will have to come to the USA and file in the court for the county where the baby is born. To do that he will also have to admit he is the father.

#3. Then the judge will ask you and you ill decline to put the baby up for adoption, which will end it. In the USA, the view is 99% of the time, kids are better off with their parents.

#4. At that point in time, you file for child support! If he goes back to Canada and refuses to pay, it becomes a FEDERAL offense rather than a state offense.

All he is trying to do is not have to pay for his screwing around.

I am constantly amazed by mothers (and fathers too) who listen to the other parent, making threats out of spite and absolute lack of knowledge.
NO one on this planet can force a parent to put a child up for adoption. IF a court has reason to find a parent unfit.. then they can terminate the parent's rights. Your baby is not even born yet. How the hell could any judge find you unfit?
When your baby is born, the law in your state will be the ruling factor. In many states, an unmarried father does not even have rights to VISIT the child.. until he goes to court and it is proven to be the father, AND he requests the judge to determine his rights. As mother, you can also petition the court to order a paternity test, and order child support. His refusal to sign the birth certificate will not prevent that. I cannot answer on how to enforce that, if he isn't in the US, but he still is not going to prevent anything as far as your rights in court.
Personally, I'd say that what he is doing (or trying to do) is verbal intimidation/ abuse, using fear to try and control you. Be glad he dumped you.. he did you a favor.
For the sake of you and baby, I'd stop any contact with him whatsoever. Let him try to "petition" to force you into giving up your child, and see how fast he gets laughed right out the door.

What a winner! I'm so glad for you and your unborn child that he is out of your life. If he wants nothing to do with you then it shouldn't matter to him what you do after your baby is born. It's none of his business. What a creep for wanting you to have an abortion and for leaving you when you didn't. I'm glad you didn't and that you didn't feel pressure to. To heck with him. He is just trying to scare you. He just doesn't want to be responsible financially. Tell him you don't need him and to sign over his parental rights. You and your child will be better off without him. Good luck.

The father of your baby cannot force you to give it up for adoption. It sounds like he is trying to intimidate you into making the decision that he wants you to make. I am sure that his behavior is making this time for you very difficult, but you need to do what is right for you and your baby.

If his feelings do not change prior to the birth, he can either petition the court for custody (he would have to submit to a DNA test) or he could ask social services (or a similar agency) to check in on you to make sure there are no problems. If, and only if, social services thought there was a problem, they could petition the Court to have the baby be placed into foster care and if things were very bad, terminate your parental rights.

Many states offering counseling services and advice. They can help you determine what your legal rights are - including the right to child support.